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February 9, 2017 - 11:41am

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Top 8 Reasons Why Teens Try Alcohol and Drugs

February 7, 2017 - 1:36pm

There is no single reason why teenagers use drugs or alcohol. But here are some of the core issues and influences behind the behavior of teenage drug and alcohol use.

It’s important that you, as a parent, understand these reasons and talk to your kids about the dangers of drinking and using drugs.

1. Other People. Teenagers see lots of people using various substances. They see their parents and other adults drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes and, sometimes, using other substances. Also, a teenager’s social scene often revolves around drinking and using marijuana. Sometimes friends urge one another to try a drink or smoke pot, but it’s just as common for teens to start using a substance because it’s readily available and they see all their friends enjoying it. In their minds, they see drug use as a part of the normal teenage experience.

2. Popular Media. Forty-five percent of teens agree with the statement: “The music that teens listen to makes marijuana seem cool.” And 45% of teens agree with the statement “Movies and TV shows make drugs seem like an ok thing to do.” (PATS 2012) So be aware of the media that your son or daughter is consuming and talk to them about it. In addition, 47 percent of teens agreed that movies and TV shows make drugs seem like an OK thing to do, according to a 2011 study.

3. Escape and Self-Medication. When teens are unhappy and can’t find a healthy outlet for their frustration or a trusted confidant, they may turn to chemicals for solace. Depending on what substance they’re using, they may feel blissfully oblivious, wonderfully happy or energized and confident. The often rough teenage years can take an emotional toll on children, sometimes even causing depression, so when teens are given a chance to take something to make them feel better, many can’t resist. For example, some teens abuse prescription medicine to manage stress or regulate their lives. Sometimes they abuse prescription stimulants (used to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) to provide additional energy and the ability to focus when they’re studying or taking tests. Others are abusing prescription pain relievers and tranquilizers to cope with academic, social or emotional stress.

4. Boredom. Teens who can’t tolerate being alone, have trouble keeping themselves occupied or crave excitement are prime candidates for substance use. Not only do alcohol and marijuana give them something to do, but those substances help fill the internal void they feel. Further, they provide a common ground for interacting with like-minded teens, a way to instantly bond with a group of kids.

5. Rebellion. Different rebellious teens choose different substances to use based on their personalities. Alcohol is the drug of choice for the angry teenager because it frees him to behave aggressively. Methamphetamine, or meth, also encourages aggressive, violent behavior, and can be far more dangerous and potent than alcohol. Marijuana, on the other hand, often seems to reduce aggression and is more of an avoidance drug. Some teens abuse prescription medicine to party and get high. LSD and hallucinogens are also escape drugs, often used by young people who feel misunderstood and may long to escape to a more idealistic, kind world. Smoking cigarettes can be a form of rebellion to flaunt their independence and make their parents angry. The reasons for teenage drug-use are as complex as teenagers themselves.

6. Instant Gratification. Drugs and alcohol work quickly. The initial effects feel really good. Teenagers turn to drug use because they see it as a short-term shortcut to happiness.

7. Lack of Confidence. Many shy teenagers who lack confidence report that they’ll do things under the influence of alcohol or drugs that they might not otherwise. This is part of the appeal of drugs and alcohol even for relatively self-confident teens; you have the courage to dance if you’re a bad dancer, or sing at the top of your lungs even if you have a terrible voice, or kiss the girl you’re attracted to. And alcohol and other drugs tend not only to loosen your inhibitions but to alleviate social anxiety. Not only do you have something in common with the other people around you, but there’s the mentality that if you do anything or say anything stupid, everyone will just think you had too many drinks or smoked too much weed.

8. Misinformation. Perhaps the most avoidable cause of substance use is inaccurate information about drugs and alcohol. Nearly every teenager has friends who claim to be experts on various recreational substances, and they’re happy to assure her that the risks are minimal. Educate your teenagers about drug use, so they get the real facts about the dangers of drug use.

Additional Resources:

  • Are you feeling overwhelmed or have a question about your child’s drug or alcohol use? Call our toll-free Helpline where you can speak with a trained and caring, master’s-level support specialist at 1-855-DRUGFREE (1-855-378-4373).

We are grateful to Dr. Neil I Bernstein for his help preparing this article and for sharing his insights from his book How to Keep Your Teenager Out of Trouble and What to Do if You Can’t.

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7 Ways to Show Love this Valentine’s Day

February 6, 2017 - 11:43am

It’s the season of love. Here are 7 easy ways you can show love and kindness, while also supporting families who need help for a loved one struggling with substance use or addiction.

1. Send a Loving and Supportive Message
Our eCards are a terrific expression of encouragement and can show how much you support a loved one in recovery.
Send an eCard >

2. Uncover a Unique Gift
Check out India Hicks, the destination to find unique bags, accessories, jewelry and fragrance to pamper the one you love. They are hosting a charity shopping online event from now through Wednesday, February 8, 2017. Ten percent of event sales will go toward our work to help families.
Shop India Hicks >

3. Give a Heart
Read one of our Stories of Hope and leave an encouraging comment to someone in recovery. “Heart” a story to share some love – just click on the heart.
Show some love >

4. Offer Empathy and Compassion
When talking with your teen or young adult – especially about difficult topics like drug and alcohol use – try to express your understanding of how he or she may be feeling. It’s not always easy but it will help you engage better with your child and promote open and positive communication.
Set the stage for positive change >

5. Take Care of You
As parents, we often find ourselves taking care of everyone else, before we take care of ourselves. Taking care of yourself is VITAL to helping your child and the rest of the family.
Make a self-care promise >

6. Find (Almost) Any Gift at Amazon
Shop AmazonSmile and we will receive 0.5% of your total purchases from Amazon. AmazonSmile is the same Amazon you know. Just use the URL instead of Then enter our name – Partnership for Drug-Free Kids – as your charitable organization.
Shop AmazonSmile this Valentine’s Day >

7. Donate $14 (or more!)
Did you know that $25 trains one local professional to deliver community education on substance use? Consider making a donation to the Partnership and your dollars will immediately make a difference in the lives of families looking for support and guidance for a child’s addiction. We are grateful for whatever you can give.
Make a donation today >

Thank you for your continued support of the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids. Your generosity will help provide families with the tools they need to take effective action for their son or daughter’s substance use and addiction. We are grateful for your thoughtfulness and wish you and your family a healthy and happy Valentine’s Day.

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The Super Bowl Takes Courage, Perseverance and Teamwork. So Did Our Sons’ Recovery.

February 3, 2017 - 11:16am

My family lives in New England and we are huge Patriots fans – we have lots to be excited about.

I’m the father of two sons whom I love very much and am very proud of. I believe my sons work as hard as professional football players do. Every day they overcome adversity and accomplish the task at hand. The ultimate prize isn’t a Super bowl ring, though. The stakes are much higher. The opponent they faced was cunning and powerful enough to exert a deadly grip. What was the serious struggle they both tackled? Substance use.

This has impacted our entire family. At times, my sons fought with all the strength and determination they could muster from their body, mind and spirit. They had treatment and support from friends and family. We stayed in their corner, believed in them and cheered for them.

Young people struggling with substance use and those early on their path to getting well need all the help they can get. As do their parents or primary caregivers.

Do you have a son or daughter who is struggling with substance use? I hope Super Bowl Sunday presents an opportunity for you to have empathy for your child. If you watch the game together, could you lead by example? Would you need to have alcohol there? Consider offering an alcohol-free beverage and have one, too.

Save any urges to argue with your son or daughter. Scream at the game on TV instead. You don’t need to get into a heavy discussion about drugs and alcohol (despite alcohol being advertised heavily during the game.) Call a time out if you need to remind yourself about what is most important to you and your family. (I know, sometimes, easier said than done.)

An opportunity might present itself to tell your son or daughter that they can always count on you and come to you for support, guidance or just to spend time together. Try to catch your child doing something good and let him or her know it. Share a fond memory, make his or her favorite appetizer or give a simple pat on the back – or whatever connection you both need to break the ice.

If you can’t be with your child, a brief phone call can remind him or her how much you care.

My wife and I chose to advocate for our sons when they could not advocate for themselves, especially concerning treatment. We helped them navigate what’s often a broken system of care. We helped to open doors to treatment, but once inside, they did all the heavy lifting. We remained engaged by trying to encourage and motivate them to get well and feel better about themselves. We chose to look at all the good inside them and to believe in them. We may have hated the drugs, but we never stopped loving our kids. Rather than detaching, I guess we attached with love. However, we did let them suffer the negative consequences of their actions. And I certainly cleaned up more messes than I should have based on what I know now.

Today they are fine young men with integrity and wisdom beyond their years. They are my heroes. I’m proud to say they have been on a good path for a very long time. For my youngest son, who is now 29, that means almost 10 years in recovery. And for my oldest son, almost six years. I have learned so much from them and my extremely supportive wife, who has been an amazing mother throughout it all.

This Super Bowl Sunday my family has a lot to be grateful for.

The more we encourage positive change in each other, the more lives can be saved. More families can heal. More young people can get well and go on to realize their tremendous potential.

GO, all you kids out there who are still struggling! We are here for you and believe in you!
GO, all you kids who are on a healthy path of recovery!
GO, all you wonderful, supportive parents!

Paul’s Recommended Reading and Resources:

* Learn strategies to help families deal with their child’s substance use.

* Read Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change and The Parent’s 20-Minute Guide.

* If you are concerned about your child’s drug or alcohol use, visit Get Help and call the Partnership’s Toll-Free Helpline to speak with a trained and caring, master’s-level support specialist about your child’s at 1-855-DRUGFREE (1-855-378-4373).

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